I don’t pretend to be an expert on the topic, “What Women Wish You Knew,” but I am fascinated by God’s decision to create gender. Think about it. How odd. God is without limitations and omniscient. Why gender? Don’t tell me it was reproduction. There must be a million ways God could have designed propagation, and He chose gender.
What was He thinking? The same species, yet vastly different. Entirely separate and independent but only by cooperation in the most intimate way, can the human race reproduce and survive. Amazing stuff …if you don’t take it for granted. He made us male and female; the same but different. Physical differences are mostly obvious but some differences are less obvious yet equally significant.
The average female typically outlives males by three or four years.A woman’s metabolism is normally slower than a man’s which explains why men lose weight more easily. (I just heard all the women yell, “I knew it!”)Women on average have shorter heads, broader faces, less protruding chins, shorter legs and longer trunks. A woman’s blood contains more water and 20% fewer red blood cells causing women on average to tire more easily and be more inclined to faint.On average, men possess 50% more brute strength. (40% of a man’s body weight is muscle, and only 23% for a typical woman.) And a woman’s heart beats 80x/minute, a man’s only 72x/minute.
But wait, that’s not all. There are also proven “non-physiological differences” that have been documented between the genders. John Gray’s 1992 classic, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,” lists a few. Among other things, Gray writes:
We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways – the ways we react and behave when we love someone. To feel better Venusians get together and openly talk about their problems. Martians tend to go to their caves to solve their problems alone.A woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding a solution to her problems, but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed…woman are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. It is difficult for a man to listen to a woman when she is unhappy or disappointed because it makes him feel like a failure. The number one complaint women have in relationships is, “I don’t feel heard.” The number one complaint men have in relationships is that women are always trying to change him. The biggest challenge for most women is to correctly interpret and support a man when he isn’t talking. Men believe a woman wants him to solve her problems when what she really wants is empathy. A woman wants to nurture the man she loves, but it feels like she is trying to control him. He wants her acceptance, not her advice.
Gender is not neutral. It is part of God’s wonderful design for all mankind, no matter if you are married or single, young or old, we live in a gender-affected environment. The world tells us men and women are the same and should be treated that way. While I believe in equal-rights and fair treatment under the law, I am not willing to deny the truth of God-created differences. It is important that Christians and Christian churches let their voice be heard and God’s Word be honored.
Through God-inspired wisdom, Solomon wrote, “Two are better than one for they have a good return for their efforts. If either of them falls, the other can lift up his companion, but woe to the one who falls and there is no one to lift him up.” While his comments are not specifically gender focused, the truth applies to the topic. We need each other. The world of God’s design is better because of gender diversity than without it.
The Christian faith provides the proper perspective when it comes to understanding and honoring the opposite sex. In his letter to the Christians at Philippi, Paul reminded people in relationships to think of the other person before thinking of themselves, then added, “Have this attitude in your life that was demonstrated by your Savior, Jesus, who although He was God-with-us, did not demand the recognition He deserved but emptied Himself and became our servant even to the point of death on a cross.” Honoring the differences and humbly helping each other will result in a much better life, better homes, and a better world.
- What has been your most important discovery about the difference between the genders?
- Why do you think God waited to make woman and made her from the man rather than from the dust of the ground like He made Adam?
- What about being a Christian is different from the culture on the matter of gender?
What is the biggest influence in factoring what women want?
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C. Role Models
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Lord, you have made us each unique, with different talents and gifts. Help us to appreciate those around us, to value them as you do and to be generous to others in our words and actions. Thank you for all the women in our lives who have helped to shape and mold us, for their influence and their lasting impression. Be with all those who are uncelebrated by others, that they would know your love. Amen.
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